Family Answer: How Did You Meet Your Spouse?

Hey girl hey. And boy.

Valentines Day is right around the corner and I thought I’d drop a traditional wedding story post for you guys. Most of my family members were married traditionally (meaning family knew this family..etc) so I decided to interview them and give you an idea of how different times were back in the day and even in the Middle East today. Plus, I asked a few follow up questions for the short answers so that’s why some of them expand on how they resolve conflicts etc. Hope you all have a great valentines day (my date is food 😂) and let’s get starteddd.

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my relatives at modern relationships


 

Dad:

“My parents knew her parents from a long time and we were basically family friends. I knew her since I was 8 and we played hide and seek with our siblings all the time. When I finished University, I got a job and I thought of getting engaged to her. I told my parents to speak with her parents about marriage because that was how our tradition worked. We talked about it together and she accepted. Our first trip was actually to McDonalds and we got sundaes. A year after the engagement, we got married.”

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Mom:

“Our families were friends and his mom talked to my mom and I agreed. Not a dramatic story – it’s basic tradition.”

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Okay okay pretty simple. My parents have been together for 20 years so to be honest, tradition works if you two are compatible.


 

Uncle Y (mom’s brother):

“This person knows this person kind of story. The first time we met was at the pharmacy and I asked for a thermometer. I pretended to be nice and bubbly and we went out with one of her parents to negotiate. After a couple of meetings, she accepted and the families came together to plan the engagement. Everything went by fast and by 3 months, we were married.

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We don’t fight much and we try to agree on the best options together. There are certain decisions she has more control of and some I have more control of because of our different roles so we balance the other out. My favourite thing about her are her dimples. Every time she smiles, it makes my day because she’s more of a serious woman whereas I’m more humorous so seeing her smile makes me feel accomplished. She’s real with you and shows her feelings clearly.”

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Uncle Y’s Wife:

“His sister is the main reason I got introduced to him. We had far connections and the two families met. He came to meet me at the pharmacy and asked for a thermometer and I was so weirded out but had a feeling it was the person my mom talked about.

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We had gatherings and decided to get married. We had different ways of thinking and different upbringings but we made it work. We negotiate a lot and it takes a bit longer to reach a final decision. I love how he is independent and encourages me to be dependent on myself which is great. When we first got married, he would joke a lot so there was a difference between our personalities but I loved his humour and it worked out well. And yeah, I’m very happy with him.”

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Omg this story actually kills me. 😂 My uncle was so nervous and was all nice when really he has a big sense of humour. He’s really nice but just not that superficial way, you know? I love how they balance ach other out and they’re actually living a rom com.


 

Aunt S: (mom’s sister)

“Our dads knew each other, the two families came together and six months later, we got married. Whenever arguments came up, we try to close it quickly. We try to calm down and ignore the little arguments. I like his intelligence and I like listening to his jokes. He’s very light blooded (arabs use this phrase to describe someone who can make you laugh) and kind.”

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realization: Julia roberts and jennifer garner look very similar

Aunt S’s Husband:

“They visited us at home. Our families knew each other. When conflicts came up, my wife takes charge. I love her cooking skills and she has a nice personality.”

I don’t know how ignoring conflict will turn out but hahaha omg my conversation with the husband was so funny. He was like “she takes charge” and she was talking about how that’s so not true. And when I asked him about what he likes about her, he was like yeah she knows how to cook. And we were all like woww so he added onto it. 😂 These two are the parents of my baby cousin who is literally the cutestdsvefhu.

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Uncle M (dad’s brother)

“I met her in Jordan through her family. We got married a year later. We discuss everything together and go through positive and negative things. She’s very kind, intelligent and funny.”

I couldn’t get in touch with his wife and ugh time difference is annoying but aww they are actually goals and I love how they discuss everything openly.

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Uncle M #2 (dad’s brother)

“My mother met her family and what can I say? It’s just the tradition. We talked and got married. Now what are these questions, Bayance?”

Hahahahah my other uncle was not impressed. I honestly don’t know what these questions are tbh.

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I have a few other immediate relatives but you’ll see them show up in future Blank Answer series. Sorry for the short-ish post but I hope you liked it.

What is your ethnicity like when it comes to marriage?

How did your parents meet?

What’s the funniest way a family member met their spouse in your family?

I’ll see you in my next post.

Bayyy. 💞

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26 thoughts on “Family Answer: How Did You Meet Your Spouse?

  1. Isa @theartofbeingisa says:

    My parents always say they met at a bar, haha. Which is NOT true xD . They actually met at church. They were friends for a while and my mom decided to move back south. So my dad dropped her off at the airport and she was making a statement on how much taller he is then her so she decided to kick off her flipflops to compare. And instead of just kicking them off like a normal person she grabbed my dads arm so that she had an excuse to touch him, haha. They still talked on the phone and she decided to move back up. So, my dad picked her up at the airport yet again and they had their first kiss.
    Uncle M #2’s answer is the perfect description of me xD . x

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    • Bayance says:

      OMGGGGGDUSUKHW THIS IS SO CUTE!!! Most people here I meet say they met at bars or work haha. That is actually so cute I better meet my husband like this. HAHAHHA yes he was so done. 😂 Thanks for reading!

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  2. Joy says:

    This is a beautiful post and it’s nice to see traditional marriages in that way!! I am French-Lebanese but from the Lebanese side of my family, none of my family members followed the tradition, maybe only my grand mother and grand father [father side]. My parents fell in love when they were 15, and my mum’s family didn’t actually like my dad at all but they ended up getting married 10 years later in france :p my parents’ love story is awesome to be honest, very movie-like.

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    • Bayance says:

      Thank you so much!!! Aah that is so cool. A lot of lebanese people I know speak french but I’m jealous that you’re actually from france too haha. LOL my whole family did except a few. Tbh with the environment I’m in right now, I’ll do it traditional. We hardly know anyone here so there’s no way of connections unless my parents know a really decent guy haha. Aww omg. I hope the family likes him now haha but that’s so romantic – did they have their wedding by the Eiffel tower? 😂

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  3. Emma says:

    What a lovely post! It’s so great to hear the positive stories about marriage arranged by the family. My husband is Pakistani and I am British. We met unconventionally and had a struggle on both sides to convince family members of our choice, but Alhamdulillah it all worked out and we’ve been happily married for years. When I look at my parents-in-law, I see a perfect example of traditional marriage. They each have their own role, but they laugh and joke together with love in their eyes. My husband tells me stories of how his dad used to write love letters to his wife and bring her gifts. It does work and it’s beautiful that you’ve highlighted that here 🙂

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    • Bayance says:

      Thank you so much!! Yess all the ones in my immediate family went well (and inshallah continue to do so). Aaah that is so cool. I’m so so happy that you two were able to get married and aah that is actually the cutest thing ever!!! My husband better write me letters with ice cream on the side. 😂 That is so so nice and yes, I get what you mean by roles. Each has an important one to play. Thank you so much for this lovely comment and all the best to your family!

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  4. Wambby says:

    Get you a guy that would go to a fast food chain on your first trip ( I don’t know about you but I’ll say heck yeah!) Also I’m jealous of your aunt having dimples, my brother has it and it’s driving me crazy that I don’t have it! I rate this post 10/10 💕

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  5. Jayati says:

    Oh, arranged marriages seemed to have worked out in your family. My parents’ marriage was also arranged and let me tell you this – my mom did not want to marry my dad but my dad fell I love with her after like 3 dates and he pursued her until she agreed and now they are happily married! and your Uncle Y’s story is so cute ❤

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    • Bayance says:

      They’re not really arranged because both people agreed but yeah, it’s not your bumped into him at work kind of story. 😂 AWW that is so nice! Sometimes love comes later but aah I’m scared of not loving someone if I trusted that I’d love them later tho. IKRRR he was so nervous hahaha. 😂

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