Hey girl hey. And boy.
Around three weeks ago, I went on my first ever trip without my family. More specifically, my first ever business trip. If you’re not up to date with all my monthly wrappers, I joined a business program for youth and there was an opportunity to go on a business trip with all expenses paid. Only 4 would qualify to go and I was one of them like what?? 😂 I literally submitted an application with such low chances but they saw something in it and decided to send me? I’m still flabbergasted. (yes, I’m learning british slang XX 😂)
I learned so many skills and experienced so much on that trip so I’m here to share with you my main takeaways! Also, I was about to leave tips for how to write a good application but I ended up making it pretty long to be a sub-section of this post so stay tuned because I really think that it was my application (and obviously God’s blessing first) that got me to that event. I wasn’t the CEO of that company, I wasn’t a big VP role, I was just a young kid trynna email some community centres for my role so yeah, I definitely want to share that with you! I’m also making a whole separate post on ‘my awkward business trip stories’ because this post with tips is reaching 1500 words and ain’t nobody got time to read a longer post. 😂 So without further ado, let’s get starteddd.
1. Ten Skills To Success
This was the center point of the whole conference so I thought I’d share these all with you!
Positive Attitude: “The two things in life that you are in total control over are your attitude and your effort.” Billy Cox, Musician
Self-belief: “Whether you think you can or cannot, you are right.” Henry Ford, CEO
Perseverance: “Failing is a crucial part of success. Every time you fail and get back up, you practise perseverance, which is a key to life. Your strength comes in your ability to recover.” Michelle Obama, Former First lady of the USA
Innovation: ” If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” Tony Robbins, author + life coach
Responsibility: “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” Charles Swindoll, pastor and educator
Excellence: “If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.” Napoleon Hill, author
Goals: “You got to be careful if you don’t know where you’re going, because you might not get there.” Yogi Berra, professional athlete
Integrate ideas and people: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” African Proverb
Values: “You can’t have everything you want, but you can have the things that really matter to you.” Marissa Mayer, CEO
Education: “The capacity to learn is a gift; the ability to learn is a skill; the willingness to learn is a choice” Brian Herbert, Author
And if you look at the bolded letters they spell out Aspire and Give. I’m going to share a quote for each of them so you get a general idea. And this is straight off the notebook they gave us aye. These skills can be implemented in everything you do and the CEO of this whole program told us to pick one and work on it for a year and do the same for all of these. I’m still deciding but I’m thinking of increasing my education this year!
2. Failure Is A Fantastic Teacher
I literally cannot tell you the amount of times perseverance is emphasized among successful people like now I feel I can fail and not worry because it’s such a normal thing to happen and we just need to accept it and learn from it. Fail always, kids.
3. Change The Approach, Not The Goal
This was something a speaker said regarding innovation and I loved it. The other day I was looking at Jay Shetty’s instagram and a quote said “when babies are learning to walk and fall down 150 times, they never think ‘maybe walking isn’t for me'” and omg that is so true! We need to always find new ways and keep our end goal and high ambitions the same!
4. The Chinese Bamboo Tree
So one of the speakers told us of the chinese bamboo tree and basically this tree requires a lot of care. Every day you have to feed it and after the first year, it grows….0 cm. The bamboo tree doesn’t grow at all in its first. five. years. All the other plants are growing and the first farmers start to get discouraged. But on year 5, the bamboo tree grows 100 ft. How? In those first 5 years, no one could see the bamboo tree growing because it was actually growing underground. And this applies to us and our success because you may not see progress right away but it’s these skills that will build the foundation of whatever you decide to do. So always persevere because your dreams might turn out like a bamboo tree.
Also, I just read this article about why this person hates the bamboo tree anna oop- 😂. One of her main points is that ‘don’t keep doing what you’re doing over and over again if you’re not seeing results’ and I totally agree because just like my last lesson, you have to keep changing the approach and seeing what works. But I also believe that you have to set foundations early on so that your plant doesn’t get carried away by the wind if that makes sense.
5. Hold Your Values But Leave Space For Perspective
I actually see this apply to religion more than business haha but make sure that you have a core set of values and don’t compromise them. My set of values follows the commandments of God and I know there are many times in my life where it would be difficult to uphold them but make sure you stick to them in whatever you do. I’m very firm on what I believe is right and wrong but I’m also open to hearing how other people view certain things and I think that’s super important if you want to build a strong team or community.
6. You Might Get a Job That Doesn’t Exist Yet
A bank center came to give us a talk about future jobs and how to prepare and I was so surprised by this fact because I’m aware of all the changes but I can’t possibly imagine that there’ll be new jobs out there. When I went to the career fair in April, one of the panel speakers to keep your options open and to develop your character in your teen years so don’t worry if you don’t know what you want to do! Make sure you pick up beneficial skills like coding, photography or whatever hobby you want to excel in.
7. Be Mindful, Not Reactionary
I. love. this. You are not your first reaction so if you feel yourself tense up, take a breathe and start again. When I went to an emotional intelligence workshop, this neuroscience student was telling us about how our prefrontal cortex disconnects with a certain part of your brain when you’re triggered that shuts off empathy and responsibility so you end up saying all kinds of things you don’t mean. So it’s really important to watch yourself.
8. Your Energy Is Contagious – Adjust It!
This links back to positive attitude and I can’t stress it enough. If you’re feeling tired, you’ll create a tired atmosphere around you so even if you’re having a bad day, try to be less grumpy and focus on the things you can fix or change.
9. What It Means To Collaborate
There were some people in my challenge group that weren’t the best to collaborate with because they made things more stressful than they were and were just a grumpy presence to be around. And it made me realize that you don’t have to be everyone’s best friend when you’re working together. Make sure you’re up front and honest if there’s an action that’s bothering you and try your best to bring out each other’s skills to work. Sure, I did get irritated by some people but we got things done and took time to work independently if that’s what we needed to focus. And when things got tough, we got each other’s backs so make sure you’re always checking in with the people around you but it doesn’t have to be too personal.
10. You’re Special But Not Alone
Being so surrounded by other over-achievers made me feel like I wasn’t the only one who always got called ‘try-hard’ or whatnot. There are so many like-minded people out there and you don’t have to dumb yourself down if you have the potential to achieve more. Everyone is unique but we all have different weaknesses that we can learn from each other to improve.
Anddd that’s all for today.
This post has been so corny and generic because how many times do you hear ‘wHaT doEsNt kIlL yOu mAkEs yOu StrOngEr’ like the amount of inspiration out there is not inspiring me anymore. But I really liked the success skills and I hope you found them beneficial. An application post might be included in my back to school series and the embarrassing stories will be sometime soon so stay tuned for two more segments to this business trip.
Which lesson did you like the most?
What success skill are you best at? Which one are you worse at?
Anything new you learned lately?
Share it allllll in the comments. I’ll see you in my next post.