Why I Hate Instagram

Hey girl hey. And boy.

Ah, Instagram. The “social” media app that once started as a way to goof off with friends and express yourself has changed drastically over the last 5 years. Most times, I hate it, want to destroy it and throw it in the ocean. (yes, I make sense)ย ๐Ÿ˜‚ย But that would mean having to drop easy communication with long distant friends so for now, I’ve left my Instagram to texting only. Like you, I used Instagram to post selfies with friends, special events and just bom pictures. I posted stories at hangouts and did what the average teen was supposed to do. So where did it all go wrong for me?

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yes guys, this is me in the 50’s as a young girl

I installed Instagram in the winter of 2016 and it was a really fun way to post pictures of me and my friends while staying in touch for the following year. Our captions were funny and we always spammed each other’s comments with clever replies. It was also a way to find my old friends and see how they were doing. At first, everything was great.

There was fighting that went on sometimes between some friends and I, but fights happened online ever since Skype was invented so it wasn’t something specific to Instagram. ๐Ÿ˜‚ย Everything was all g.

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these emojis were everything

And then 2017 rolled along and since I went to a new school, I had new people that followed my Instagram and I had to filter out some of the goofy stuff I did. I had to keep both my friends and classmates in mind when I posted and things got really off from there.

[*Disclaimer*: If you do any of this, I’m not trying to mock you! I actually did most of these at some point so I’m just internally screaming at myself. Don’t take it to heart and hopefully we can have a laugh together. ๐Ÿ˜‚]

I’d follow people back and suddenly my feed was filled with toxic ideals that my mind consumed every day. And here is where the list of why I hate Instagram begins:


 

  1. Everyone Is The Same

I’d open my feed and I’d see girls posting the same poses with the same captions with the same comments and the same stories. It drove me insane man. People lost their creativity to mirror selfies where there’s nothing to compliment because I literally can’t see your face!? It was the same ‘attempting to be sexy’ selfies that I’d see from teens everyday with the same comments from their friends. And teens post them one after the other. Like we already saw your duck face at dawn? Another one at golden hour? ๐Ÿ˜‚ So it’s not even the same trend within different people but within one person’s feed. I’m just done with it fam.

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2. Cycle Of Validation

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People’s self worth is now ATTACHED to the amount of likes and comments they get. And it’s not even a blog where the amount of likes you get just means that your writing is reaching more people and people like it but Instagram attaches likes to your physical appearance and there is no sense of who this person is on the inside at all. The worse way to judge someone is by the amount of attention they get and what sucks is that people are starting to judge themselves. There was an experiment once where this rat had to press the lever to get his cheese and because it was so easy, he aggressively kept pressing the lever for cheese that took a while to reload. We keep pressing the lever on Instagram to get the fast attention that made us happy once. And you never get tired of the attention, you just keep wanting more. It’s crazy to think that some people post pictures of themselves constantly to keep getting that validation over and over again. Makes me go mad. ๐Ÿ˜‚

 

 

3. Things People Would Never Do In Real Life

I really want to make a video to see how this would turn out but the things people do on social media would turn out so stupid if it was applied to real life.

“Like + Comment” = Like me and tell me I’m pretty.

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“How much do you think I like you?” = Thiiiiis much, or thiiiiiiis much or thiiiiiiiiis much?

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“Follow me” = Follow me around the school and see what I’m up to on a daily basis because it makes me feel important.

“Ask me anything” = Hey, ask me some questions about myself because instead of coming up to you with questions to get to know you, it’s all about me.

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Mirror selfies = Yes hun, of course I look in the mirror everyday with my lips plumped and my butt sticking out. Tres naturale. ๐Ÿ˜‚

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Serious selfies = Of course my resting face while I’m waiting for the bus is this!

Felt cute might delete later = I- I’m speechless on this one ๐Ÿ˜‚

Uuuugh I see the effects of this on myself too because social media has created a platform for everyone to generate attention to themselves that they might not get in real life. It’s the same adrenaline you get when someone says ‘hey can I ask you something?’ and we just want more of it. Yes, I have a PhD in psychology. ๐Ÿ˜‚

 

4. Stories That Make Me Cringe

Y’all the amount of dumb stories I watched last year are never-ending. Here are some that I just cry inside at:

  • Quick Stories

These are the super quick ones that consist of friends laughing and covering their faces in fast motion and it’s usually taken from Snapchat. I kid you not these last 0.2 seconds. ๐Ÿ˜‚

  • Slow Stories

The slow ones where everyone stares at your face for a solid 10 seconds. I mean, what??

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  • ‘Send me a โค if you don’t hate me and I’ll post my favourite photo of you on my story but first you have to answer 3 questions’

What. the. freak!!??

I hate the ones that force you to repost or reply like bruh the other month I saw ‘if you love Allah, repost.’ or ‘if you stand up for bullying, repost’ – ummm I don’t need to show everyone things that are just common sense or personal to me. It’s really guilt tripping at its best.

  • How much do you think I like you?

I’m crying.

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5. Anxiety

This is probably just me but Instagram just made me so anxious. I used to never feel anything after posting but in 2018 I’d be so anxious about who saw it or who commented that I’d have to uninstall the app after I posted. It’s so weird and I have no idea why I was acting this way. Or I’d say something or have an argument with someone and it would sting so much more than in person. Like I remember having an argument with a friend and just feeling so disturbed after that I started crying. I’ve become so obsessive with making sure there were no notifications unread or no stories having the red circle around them.ย  This past summer at the business conference, I posted pictures on my new public account for the social media challenge and I could NOT stop thinking about it while the presentation was happening. So I removed everyone from my followers and a couple minutes later, deleted everything I posted. I just remember being really obsessive and ending up unsatisfied. It got really bad so I sat down and unfollowed everybody. I felt like Beyonce. It was amazing. ๐Ÿ˜‚ย Writing this down makes me look insane but ugh it just really made me go in mental spirals and I’m SO much better off without it.

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6. Time Drain

Y’ALL THE AMOUNT OF TIME I WASTED ON INSTAGRAM STILL GOES ON TO THIS DAY. Despite unfollowing everyone, then creating a new account, then only following 20 selective positive people like Jay Shetty and Muslim female entrepreneurs – I STILL waste so much time just scrolling or watching endless stories. It’s so addictive and even with the limits I put on myself, it still is. I’d glance at Instagram and the next thing I know 50 minutes passed. UGHGEDUYFHJgfbvkf. It’s so frustrating and there’s literally no benefit at the end of the day.

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I feel like the reason so many teens spend so much time on social media is because we believe we have nothing better to do but I promise you that there is so much BENEFICIAL knowledge that is out there and instead of falling into an endless vault of comparison with other teens, we should work on better improving ourselves and reaching our goals. Woah, run on sentence but ugh you guys if only we used our time on better things.

After I unfollowed everyone, my friends were mad that I unfollowed them too. I see them every day at school and some of them just have a photo of themselves that I already know from seeing them. So I started thinking to myself: how much value do we put on followers and likes? They told me that social media is what you make of it and you just need to be following the right people. That’s why I decided to keep Instagram. It has news and opportunities – we just need to open our minds and shift the purpose of why we use social media. Instagram is a great platform for business and support – but if you’re surrounded by people who only place value on how they look, you’ll become what you consume.

You become what you consume, so make sure it improves your well-being, motivation and purpose in life.


 

Anddd that’s all for today.

I feel like this was more of a psychology analysis than a rant and this is what happens when I don’t post a rant in months. ๐Ÿ˜‚ย We’ll be back in the groove soon with more rants that are more light-hearted. (hello, pepsi)

Do you like Instagram? Hate it?

What social media platforms do you have?

Who do you surround yourself with on social media?

I’ll see you in my next post.

Bayyy. ๐Ÿ’ž

24 thoughts on “Why I Hate Instagram

  1. McKayla says:

    Great post, as always, Bayance.
    I don’t love Instagram but I don’t hate it.
    For example: I’m a doll collector and photographer. So people’s poses that they make with their dolls are always interesting.
    I also like when people show pictures of their art that they drew, pictures of pets or loved ones or even the occasional sweet or silly selfie. I also feel like you can share social problems and ways to fix them. Same goes for Twitter. Some people just take it to an extreme. I’ll probably get a Twitter or Instagram when I’m older and I don’t have a problem with it. People just kinda go crazy over it. My dad has Facebook and he lets himself use it for half an hour each day, which seems reasonable.

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  2. Cordelia. says:

    Agree with everything. Its always the same old thing where everyone just tries to be validated on instagram. I used to feel like i can’t post what i want because it isnt going to be well liked but i have adopted a more fuck it attitude now

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  3. Ju The Dodo says:

    I agree with you on a molecular level!!! Omg as a muslim teen, you’ve just said the very thoughts I used to have! I’ve never had an account with the fear of addiction, something which so many of my friends don’t understand. The pressure it puts on every user, especially teens is harmful. Greta post!โค

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  4. Jo says:

    okay bay you be pouring out the right teaโ€” i used to hate insta for the same reasons and then BOOM i got it XD once i started forgetting the people though and just focused on making good funny content (or resorted to texting XD ) it suddenly was way more enjoyable also ughhhhhh i hate the posts that go โ€œonly people who really care will repostโ€ because thatโ€™s just straight up guilt tripping.
    also i canโ€™t use punctuation apparently *sigh* but yes to every thing in this post! preach it sis!

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  5. Aditi says:

    ASDFFGHJKL bay you captured my recent thoughts eXaCtLy and thankkk you for this post! I’ve found that for me I have so many things I need to get done which I IGNORE because of Insta. I ended up deleting it from my phone because it’s just sooo time-consuming. Also, I have my school and blogging accounts, and I’m constantly seeing pics of beautiful selfies of kids I know but don’t (like have NEVER talked to yet follow on insta??) and amazing book piles artistically decorated when my feed is like MWAHKLSD ๐Ÿ˜‚ so… I’m kind of done with it for now. I mean, now I waste time with youtube, but it’s harder to do because you have to hear music and talking, so at least I’m not wasting as much time ๐Ÿ˜‚
    Anyways, great post! And btw, my Q&A is up!

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  6. muzsbog says:

    Damn you SNAPPED! First offfff, there’s a ton I agree with. I have my personal and fan account and oh my freaking gawd I find the personal account SO draining. You’ve had this convo with me before and I found it really inspiring, I’ve unfollowed people who I don’t care about what their doing (lol that was a inarticulate sentence). Like these people have things and sometimes I’m like “damn it would be cool to have that” ya know? I barely go on that account anymore because I just don’t care about those people. BUT the one thing I can proudly say is I never did that whole duck face thing and posting just cause or because of need for validation. On my personal I post things I did or like how to train your dragon so I don’t think I ever tried to show a “fake” version of myself online but others did and that can be so toxic. Imma be honest with you when I say I wouldn’t have an Instagram If it wasn’t for my fan account. As a last point I HATE THOSE STORIES OF PEOPLE AND THEIR SLOW MO FACES LIKE STOPPPPPPP IN THE NAME OF THE LAWWWWWWW.
    anyway, this was literally so freaking amazing I am shooketh, sending lots of love cant wait for your next post ๐Ÿ™‚

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  7. hiddenzzzzz says:

    God! Instagram has more negative impact than positive ones. I always keep my classmates’ opinions in my mind like I feel they’re gonna judge me. Plus, the UPDATES!! There are new updates and features all the time and I don’t even know anything anymore. I agree with you.. instagram makes me anxious as well. But thankfully, I’ve stopped using instagram everyday since summer and honestly that made me more productive!!

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  8. Tess says:

    I’m so glad you made this post bc when people use insta for these kinds of htings it’s so destructive. nowwww i am an insta user, and i’ve found a few things that make it worth it to me 1) it’s literally the only social i have, so i keep in touch with people through it 2) PROVIDEDDDD you’re not looking for attention constantly it can be super self-confidence boosting to post unfiltered, non-perfect photos of yourself doing stuff and just feel good abt it. i’m so much more at peace with the way i look now that i don’t care abt looking perfect on sm XD 3) i use it to lurk people XD SOOOOO but yeah, totally agree with you on the bad behaviors people get using it lol.

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  9. Gracie says:

    Yes yes yes. Like I wish all teens were this wise haha or at least had another perspective rather than just feeling the pReSsUrE from EVERYONE around them. So i totally believe in the positive power of social media, i don’t have a personal account, but I use it for my family’s challenge and it’s a great way to connect with people and keep then updated on what we’re doing, as well as hopefully inspire and encourage others that living differently and caring about others is totally possible, BUT it’s also time consuming. It does definitely contribute to anxiety and insecurity. And it’s a highlight reel. I know people who use it in amazing ways to make a difference, raise awareness, etc, but for the majority of people it sucks your time and energy. It plants a seed of thinking ‘what if I’m not good enough?’ or ‘why don’t I look like her?’ THIS ISNT JUST WHAT ‘RESPONSIBLE ADULTS’ AND ‘THOSE WEIRD KIDS’ ARE SAYING – ITS TRUE. AND WE ALL NEED TO HAVE THE COURAGE TO RECOGNISE IT AND BREAK THE CYCLE. I’m not saying that all social media is bad, but should we allow it to become the most important part of our lives? No.

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