Hey girl hey. And boy.
Ah, Instagram. The “social” media app that once started as a way to goof off with friends and express yourself has changed drastically over the last 5 years. Most times, I hate it, want to destroy it and throw it in the ocean. (yes, I make sense) 😂 But that would mean having to drop easy communication with long distant friends so for now, I’ve left my Instagram to texting only. Like you, I used Instagram to post selfies with friends, special events and just bom pictures. I posted stories at hangouts and did what the average teen was supposed to do. So where did it all go wrong for me?
I installed Instagram in the winter of 2016 and it was a really fun way to post pictures of me and my friends while staying in touch for the following year. Our captions were funny and we always spammed each other’s comments with clever replies. It was also a way to find my old friends and see how they were doing. At first, everything was great.
There was fighting that went on sometimes between some friends and I, but fights happened online ever since Skype was invented so it wasn’t something specific to Instagram. 😂 Everything was all g.
And then 2017 rolled along and since I went to a new school, I had new people that followed my Instagram and I had to filter out some of the goofy stuff I did. I had to keep both my friends and classmates in mind when I posted and things got really off from there.
[*Disclaimer*: If you do any of this, I’m not trying to mock you! I actually did most of these at some point so I’m just internally screaming at myself. Don’t take it to heart and hopefully we can have a laugh together. 😂]
I’d follow people back and suddenly my feed was filled with toxic ideals that my mind consumed every day. And here is where the list of why I hate Instagram begins:
Everyone Is The Same
I’d open my feed and I’d see girls posting the same poses with the same captions with the same comments and the same stories. It drove me insane man. People lost their creativity to mirror selfies where there’s nothing to compliment because I literally can’t see your face!? It was the same ‘attempting to be sexy’ selfies that I’d see from teens everyday with the same comments from their friends. And teens post them one after the other. Like we already saw your duck face at dawn? Another one at golden hour? 😂 So it’s not even the same trend within different people but within one person’s feed. I’m just done with it fam.
2. Cycle Of Validation
People’s self worth is now ATTACHED to the amount of likes and comments they get. And it’s not even a blog where the amount of likes you get just means that your writing is reaching more people and people like it but Instagram attaches likes to your physical appearance and there is no sense of who this person is on the inside at all. The worse way to judge someone is by the amount of attention they get and what sucks is that people are starting to judge themselves. There was an experiment once where this rat had to press the lever to get his cheese and because it was so easy, he aggressively kept pressing the lever for cheese that took a while to reload. We keep pressing the lever on Instagram to get the fast attention that made us happy once. And you never get tired of the attention, you just keep wanting more. It’s crazy to think that some people post pictures of themselves constantly to keep getting that validation over and over again. Makes me go mad. 😂
3. Things People Would Never Do In Real Life
I really want to make a video to see how this would turn out but the things people do on social media would turn out so stupid if it was applied to real life.
“Like + Comment” = Like me and tell me I’m pretty.
“How much do you think I like you?” = Thiiiiis much, or thiiiiiiis much or thiiiiiiiiis much?
“Follow me” = Follow me around the school and see what I’m up to on a daily basis because it makes me feel important.
“Ask me anything” = Hey, ask me some questions about myself because instead of coming up to you with questions to get to know you, it’s all about me.
Mirror selfies = Yes hun, of course I look in the mirror everyday with my lips plumped and my butt sticking out. Tres naturale. 😂
Serious selfies = Of course my resting face while I’m waiting for the bus is this!
Felt cute might delete later = I- I’m speechless on this one 😂
Uuuugh I see the effects of this on myself too because social media has created a platform for everyone to generate attention to themselves that they might not get in real life. It’s the same adrenaline you get when someone says ‘hey can I ask you something?’ and we just want more of it. Yes, I have a PhD in psychology. 😂
4. Stories That Make Me Cringe
Y’all the amount of dumb stories I watched last year are never-ending. Here are some that I just cry inside at:
- Quick Stories
These are the super quick ones that consist of friends laughing and covering their faces in fast motion and it’s usually taken from Snapchat. I kid you not these last 0.2 seconds. 😂
- Slow Stories
The slow ones where everyone stares at your face for a solid 10 seconds. I mean, what??
- ‘Send me a ❤ if you don’t hate me and I’ll post my favourite photo of you on my story but first you have to answer 3 questions’
What. the. freak!!??
I hate the ones that force you to repost or reply like bruh the other month I saw ‘if you love Allah, repost.’ or ‘if you stand up for bullying, repost’ – ummm I don’t need to show everyone things that are just common sense or personal to me. It’s really guilt tripping at its best.
- How much do you think I like you?
This is probably just me but Instagram just made me so anxious. I used to never feel anything after posting but in 2018 I’d be so anxious about who saw it or who commented that I’d have to uninstall the app after I posted. It’s so weird and I have no idea why I was acting this way. Or I’d say something or have an argument with someone and it would sting so much more than in person. Like I remember having an argument with a friend and just feeling so disturbed after that I started crying. I’ve become so obsessive with making sure there were no notifications unread or no stories having the red circle around them. This past summer at the business conference, I posted pictures on my new public account for the social media challenge and I could NOT stop thinking about it while the presentation was happening. So I removed everyone from my followers and a couple minutes later, deleted everything I posted. I just remember being really obsessive and ending up unsatisfied. It got really bad so I sat down and unfollowed everybody. I felt like Beyonce. It was amazing. 😂 Writing this down makes me look insane but ugh it just really made me go in mental spirals and I’m SO much better off without it.
6. Time Drain
Y’ALL THE AMOUNT OF TIME I WASTED ON INSTAGRAM STILL GOES ON TO THIS DAY. Despite unfollowing everyone, then creating a new account, then only following 20 selective positive people like Jay Shetty and Muslim female entrepreneurs – I STILL waste so much time just scrolling or watching endless stories. It’s so addictive and even with the limits I put on myself, it still is. I’d glance at Instagram and the next thing I know 50 minutes passed. UGHGEDUYFHJgfbvkf. It’s so frustrating and there’s literally no benefit at the end of the day.
I feel like the reason so many teens spend so much time on social media is because we believe we have nothing better to do but I promise you that there is so much BENEFICIAL knowledge that is out there and instead of falling into an endless vault of comparison with other teens, we should work on better improving ourselves and reaching our goals. Woah, run on sentence but ugh you guys if only we used our time on better things.
After I unfollowed everyone, my friends were mad that I unfollowed them too. I see them every day at school and some of them just have a photo of themselves that I already know from seeing them. So I started thinking to myself: how much value do we put on followers and likes? They told me that social media is what you make of it and you just need to be following the right people. That’s why I decided to keep Instagram. It has news and opportunities – we just need to open our minds and shift the purpose of why we use social media. Instagram is a great platform for business and support – but if you’re surrounded by people who only place value on how they look, you’ll become what you consume.
You become what you consume, so make sure it improves your well-being, motivation and purpose in life.
Anddd that’s all for today.
I feel like this was more of a psychology analysis than a rant and this is what happens when I don’t post a rant in months. 😂 We’ll be back in the groove soon with more rants that are more light-hearted. (hello, pepsi)
Do you like Instagram? Hate it?
What social media platforms do you have?
Who do you surround yourself with on social media?
I’ll see you in my next post.