Hey girl hey. And boy.
Growing up, I HATED chores. Chopping salads, cleaning my room, laundry, dishes – you name it. Here are a few thoughts I had in my bratty tween years:
“It’s not my mess”
“The mess doesn’t bother me”
“I’m not conforming to gender roles”
“Why can’t my brother do it?”
“If it’s so simple, maybe you can do it”
“How am I supposed to read your mind? If you need a chore done, just tell me”
“I’ll do it when I feel like it”
“Why should I clean if it’s just gonna get messy later?”
Do you guys smell the bratiness or is it just me? 😂 For so long, I wouldn’t help with anything and when I did help, I thought I was entitled to attention and praise from my parents. I also used to think my mom liked my brother more than she liked me, so whenever she asked me to do something, I’d go on a full feminist rant and thought her giving me chores was a hate crime. 😂 In conclusion, I took all chores personally and just never took initiative for ANYTHING.
I’m giving you this context because you might be dealing with a younger sibling, a daughter or even yourself who may have a lazy and bratty attitude towards chores. And hopefully by sharing why I started loving chores, it can inspire you to start taking more initiative around the house and to realize that chores ain’t a personal attack after all. Or maybe I’m the only one who thought like this. Probably. Anyways, here are 10 reasons I started to love chores.
- Increase in Productivity & Motivation
I’m not sure when I started making this shift but having a clean room made me focus so much better and just made me feel like I can get things done. I used to not mind a messy room but even when my mom cleaned it, I would feel a bit more motivated, worked effectively and work started to look so much more appealing. It’s a really subtle shift in mindset but trust me, once you start cleaning your room more often, you’ll really start to protect the cleanliness of it.
2. Clear your mind
This recently started to be one of my coping methods for stress so after prayer and writing, I clean when I feel like I want to use energy on physically moving. It definitely goes down to being a control thing like having a clean room can give you the illusion of your mind being clean. But it’s just a way for me to get toxic things I heard or said or did out of my system and makes me feel like I let it go. Having a clean room when there’s chaos in my mind helps me sit down and better reflect on starting a new chapter internally with the lessons of my mistakes moving forward. I also clean when I’m angry because I end up scrubbing harder. 😂 Releasing your emotions productively is the way to go.
3. Less pressure on my mom
Housework can be a lot of stress on the mother (or father), especially if the work is piled up from a guest coming over or because there was an appointment that day or whatever it is. And when there’s stress on my mom, the whole house is affected. Ever since I started doing more around the house, I noticed my mom getting happier and feeling calmer than usual. And I wish I was able to comprehend this better 6 or 7 years ago when my mom had to deal with a full house, a baby, a toddler and my dad travelling for work. But instead, that had to be the time I felt like being a brat. 😂
4. Practise for the future
My mom ALWAYS used to say that if you clean when you’re young, it’ll be so much easier in the future. And I thought she was just tricking me into doing all the work but I was actually wrong. Cleaning at first took me hoursss. My room would take 2, the dishes would take 1.5, the bathrooms would take 1 and I was just suuuper slow and complained 24/7. 😂 But now my room takes me 5 minutes, the washrooms take 10 and the dishes take 20 minutes to half an hour. The more I practised, the easier it became and the faster I became at staying on top of my daily responsibilities. And especially since I want to work when I’m older, I want to make sure that the house gets done pretty fast and that I can still manage and balance other things in my life.
One time my mom lectured me on the importance of cleaning and she said “I’m harsh because I want you to hear the harshness from me. It’s better that you hear all the criticism now about your behavior and habits than in the future from a mother in law or an external figure. Because you’ll forgive your mom but you won’t forgive anyone else”. I always admired my mom for this because at school, usually people sugarcoat everything I do and I never really receive any criticism. But hearing things I need to improve on from my mom at home really brings me back to earth and makes me realize that there’s still lots for me to work on. And all this time I thought my mom wanted me to work as a punishment or to make me get tired but it was actually to strengthen me so that I can know what I’m doing in the future.
So start now and your future self will thank you.
5. Serve your inner circle first
I don’t know about you but I find that when I’m at school or volunteering, I take so much initiative and I just put in my 100% effort into everything I do. But at home, I’m a lazy slug who won’t take any initiative for housework and put in maybe 20% effort into tasks my mom asks of me. And I never realized how bad that was. How could I trick everyone outside that I was this super girl who was all community minded but I couldn’t apply that same character at home? I soon realized that your attitude at home says everything about you and that your family members are human beings who deserve respect too.
I made a post before called Community Starts at Home but I couldn’t internalize it fully until now with quarantine. Never neglect your inner circle and serving them by doing tasks around the house can give you the foundation to be able to help more people after that. And one more thing to note here – don’t serve your family and expect praise and attention in return. Just know that you did what was on your part and that whether they react or not makes no difference in the value of your work.
Woaaah this post got super long super quick. 😂 Because of this, I’ll launch part 2 out after tomorrow and after that there’ll be a super short fun recipe post so please bear with me on the word vomit. 😂
Do you love chores?
What’s your favourite chore to do?
Which chore reason do you resonate with the most?
I’ll see you in my next post.