Why I Started Loving Chores (part 1)

Hey girl hey. And boy.

Growing up, I HATED chores. Chopping salads, cleaning my room, laundry, dishes – you name it. Here are a few thoughts I had in my bratty tween years:

“It’s not my mess”

“The mess doesn’t bother me”

“I’m not conforming to gender roles”

“Why can’t my brother do it?”

“If it’s so simple, maybe you can do it”

“How am I supposed to read your mind? If you need a chore done, just tell me”

“I’ll do it when I feel like it”

“Why should I clean if it’s just gonna get messy later?”

Do you guys smell the bratiness or is it just me? ๐Ÿ˜‚ย For so long, I wouldn’t help with anything and when I did help, I thought I was entitled to attention and praise from my parents. I also used to think my mom liked my brother more than she liked me, so whenever she asked me to do something, I’d go on a full feminist rant and thought her giving me chores was a hate crime. ๐Ÿ˜‚ย In conclusion, I took all chores personally and just never took initiative for ANYTHING.

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I’m giving you this context because you might be dealing with a younger sibling, a daughter or even yourself who may have a lazy and bratty attitude towards chores. And hopefully by sharing why I started loving chores, it can inspire you to start taking more initiative around the house and to realize that chores ain’t a personal attack after all. Or maybe I’m the only one who thought like this. Probably. Anyways, here are 10 reasons I started to love chores.


 

  1. Increase in Productivity & Motivation

I’m not sure when I started making this shift but having a clean room made me focus so much better and just made me feel like I can get things done. I used to not mind a messy room but even when my mom cleaned it, I would feel a bit more motivated, worked effectively and work started to look so much more appealing. It’s a really subtle shift in mindset but trust me, once you start cleaning your room more often, you’ll really start to protect the cleanliness of it.

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2. Clear your mind

This recently started to be one of my coping methods for stress so after prayer and writing, I clean when I feel like I want to use energy on physically moving. It definitely goes down to being a control thing like having a clean room can give you the illusion of your mind being clean. But it’s just a way for me to get toxic things I heard or said or did out of my system and makes me feel like I let it go. Having a clean room when there’s chaos in my mind helps me sit down and better reflect on starting a new chapter internally with the lessons of my mistakes moving forward. I also clean when I’m angry because I end up scrubbing harder. ๐Ÿ˜‚ย Releasing your emotions productively is the way to go.

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3. Less pressure on my mom

Housework can be a lot of stress on the mother (or father), especially if the work is piled up from a guest coming over or because there was an appointment that day or whatever it is. And when there’s stress on my mom, the whole house is affected. Ever since I started doing more around the house, I noticed my mom getting happier and feeling calmer than usual. And I wish I was able to comprehend this better 6 or 7 years ago when my mom had to deal with a full house, a baby, a toddler and my dad travelling for work. But instead, that had to be the time I felt like being a brat. ๐Ÿ˜‚

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4. Practise for the future

My mom ALWAYS used to say that if you clean when you’re young, it’ll be so much easier in the future. And I thought she was just tricking me into doing all the work but I was actually wrong. Cleaning at first took me hoursss. My room would take 2, the dishes would take 1.5, the bathrooms would take 1 and I was just suuuper slow and complained 24/7. ๐Ÿ˜‚ย But now my room takes me 5 minutes, the washrooms take 10 and the dishes take 20 minutes to half an hour. The more I practised, the easier it became and the faster I became at staying on top of my daily responsibilities. And especially since I want to work when I’m older, I want to make sure that the house gets done pretty fast and that I can still manage and balance other things in my life.

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me thinking I’ll be able to handle it then

One time my mom lectured me on the importance of cleaning and she said “I’m harsh because I want you to hear the harshness from me. It’s better that you hear all the criticism now about your behavior and habits than in the future from a mother in law or an external figure. Because you’ll forgive your mom but you won’t forgive anyone else”. I always admired my mom for this because at school, usually people sugarcoat everything I do and I never really receive any criticism. But hearing things I need to improve on from my mom at home really brings me back to earth and makes me realize that there’s still lots for me to work on. And all this time I thought my mom wanted me to work as a punishment or to make me get tired but it was actually to strengthen me so that I can know what I’m doing in the future.

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So start now and your future self will thank you.

5. Serve your inner circle first

I don’t know about you but I find that when I’m at school or volunteering, I take so much initiative and I just put in my 100% effort into everything I do. But at home, I’m a lazy slug who won’t take any initiative for housework and put in maybe 20% effort into tasks my mom asks of me. And I never realized how bad that was. How could I trick everyone outside that I was this super girl who was all community minded but I couldn’t apply that same character at home? I soon realized that your attitude at home says everything about you and that your family members are human beings who deserve respect too.

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I made a post before calledย Community Starts at Homeย but I couldn’t internalize it fully until now with quarantine. Never neglect your inner circle and serving them by doing tasks around the house can give you the foundation to be able to help more people after that. And one more thing to note here – don’t serve your family and expect praise and attention in return. Just know that you did what was on your part and that whether they react or not makes no difference in the value of your work.


 

Woaaah this post got super long super quick. ๐Ÿ˜‚ย Because of this, I’ll launch part 2 out after tomorrow and after that there’ll be a super short fun recipe post so please bear with me on the word vomit. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Do you love chores?

What’s your favourite chore to do?

Which chore reason do you resonate with the most?

I’ll see you in my next post.

Bayyy. ๐Ÿ’ž

34 thoughts on “Why I Started Loving Chores (part 1)

  1. amina says:

    GIRL I had this exact same attitude growing up!! It’s good that you’re self-aware and have learned to love chores…I wouldn’t say I love them rn but I hate them less so progress?

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  2. Elizabeth Webel says:

    So true! Chores make me feel very productive. Give me Bluetooth headphones, good music (Relient K all the way!), and a messy room, and one hour later it will be pristinnnneeee… Though it might be two hours since *ahem* I like to dance lol

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  3. Perspective girl says:

    Great post! I canโ€™t say I love chores yet because i sometimes times feel as if Iโ€™m the only one asked to do them, but that probably isnโ€™t true at all ๐Ÿ˜‚. However a lot of the things that people call โ€˜choresโ€™ I wouldnโ€™t mind doing usually ๐Ÿ˜€

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    • Bayance says:

      Thank you!! Hahaha omg I used to feel the same way ๐Ÿ˜‚ I’d be like “well why can’t my brother do it?” And he’d do it every time rip. Ooh yes that’s awesome! Tysm for reading!!

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  4. Elsie LMC says:

    Do you know what, I can’t remember how I used to feel about chores ๐Ÿ™ˆmemory has a habit of deserting me ๐Ÿ˜‚ but nowadays I like to make things easier for my mum and do my bit to keep things tidy (annoyingly that doesn’t extend to my room but I’m working on it! ๐Ÿ˜‚). Great post! ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

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    • Bayance says:

      Me too on the memory part ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ Yas Elsie!!! Omg hahah ๐Ÿ˜‚ As long as the living room is tidy, you can keep a mom happy. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Tysm for reading!! (I almost said tysm for cleaning oml ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ)

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  5. Amber says:

    Haha I loved this so much Bay! Some of the things you quoted were exactly what I used to say ๐Ÿ˜‚ I always used to say โ€˜if you can do it, then why should I do it?โ€™ I basically made my mum go insane ๐Ÿ˜† The thing about me is Iโ€™ve like always made sure my room is clean and tidy, itโ€™s not that I have OCD but I feel like when everything else in my life is out of control, itโ€™s nice to have control over something. Over this quarantine Iโ€™ve had a crazy rom glow up, and have been working so hard to play my part in chores! ๐Ÿ’• My favourite chore is emptying the dishwasher, I either put music on or if my brain is filled with thoughts Iโ€™ll dwell over nonsense for a while ๐Ÿ˜‚ I also love hoovering! Thatโ€™s really fun and drying the dishes, these are my personal favourites ๐Ÿ˜‚ I HATE (keyword: hate) doing the washing up. Like all the dirty dishes just freak me out and then the floor floats like blah! I need to get over that fear because when Iโ€™m older unless Iโ€™m crazy rich Iโ€™m going to have to do my own dishes ๐Ÿ˜‚ Loved this so much Bayance – a really relatable post! Xx

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    • Bayance says:

      OKAY AMBER I’M STARTING TO THINK WE’RE CLONES OF THE SAME PERSON BECAUSE I RELATE TO EVERYTHING YOU JUST SAID!! Like. everything. I used to hate washing dishes and claimed “i didnt know how to do it” and I kid you not, I would wear gloves at first because I was so disgusted and thought I was the British queen. Also hoovering is a new word for me but it turned out to be vacuuming so the more you know. Tysmmm for this comment I loved it sm sm sm

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      • Amber says:

        OMG WE ARE SISTERS SEPARATED AT BIRTH! ๐Ÿ˜‚ These conspiracy theories be cominโ€™ at us ๐Ÿ˜† Oh my goshhhh yes I did too, I used to say that Iโ€™d end up dropping them to stop my mum from forcing me ๐Ÿ˜† You are a British Queen though! Omg I wear gloves too, Iโ€™m too British for this ๐Ÿ˜† See I am literally converting you to be British, like soon youโ€™ll be fluent in the British lingo! Awww f course I love your posts so much! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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      • Amber says:

        HAHAH Bay your hilarious ๐Ÿ˜‚ Honestly your comments literally make me laugh out loud and smile so much ๐Ÿ˜† I will have to resign from my British duties, ta ta darling! *royally blows an air kiss* ๐Ÿ˜˜

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  6. Emmie ๐Ÿ’– says:

    This is so cool! My parents do a chore list thingy of 1 chore we have to do a day, and if we do all our chores we get $3 at the end of the week. Except my mom never puts anything on the chore chart, and me and my sister forget that we should do them, so we only end up doing chores when we need cash, haha. XD Haha, now I have to go clean my room…XD

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    • Bayance says:

      Ahahah I love thattt! I used to do that too and oml I’d forget about it too. xD Now I just get into a routine of chores but I better bring this up to my mom again haha. Tysm for reading!

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  7. xoxlucy says:

    This was such a relatable post and I couldn’t agree more!! I use to think my mom was crazy for liking chores(lol, sometimes I still do because she wakes up at 5 and starts cleaning our house) but over the years I have started to understand her more. My favorite chore would probably be to do the dishes because like you said above, it really helps clear my mind. While doing the dishes I have come up with inspiration or just simple motivation. Can’t wait for part 2, what’s your favorite chore?

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    • Bayance says:

      Omllll tysm for reading!! Ahahha I feel like that would be me as a mom but I never would’ve thought I’d like early morning cleaning just a year ago. Yessssss!! Tysm I was planning on doing it right after but couldn’t find the time so it’ll hopefully be up during May! My favourite chore is probably dishes or wiping kitchen tables. Or organizing a room. I’m so indecisive haha! But yeah dishes also gives me time to think and listen to the water. Tysm!! โค

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  8. Anna Coleman says:

    I literally only started thinking of the positive side of chores after reading this ๐Ÿคฃ. Thank you so much for writing this! It made me feel better about my daily chores. You rock, Bay!

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  9. simplymesmc says:

    I can relate 100%! At school when I was in highschool, I did everything because of grades and because my I had a good reputation at school. But at home, I was lazy. hahhaah.. When I moved out of my parent’s house, I did not have a choice but to do things on my own. All thanx to my nagger mom, chores came in handy now. because if your post, I now have a conclusion that all moms are the same. I dont miss the nagging now, but if not of her nagging all the time, I wouldn’t have learned.

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